I’m Lisa Fisher, founder of Black Belt Buddha.

Ever since I can remember, I wanted to create harmony in my environment.  Since my early teens, I have been the designated diplomat, sounding board, smoother of tensions, and restorer of peace in my family.

Back then, I had no idea that people did this sort of thing for a living, so I became an attorney negotiating deals as a big firm corporate lawyer.

When I discovered that “mediator” was an actual job, I was thrilled that I could get paid for what I had been doing most of my life – managing complex relationships and bringing people together. I felt I had finally arrived. Professionally, that is.

In my personal life, my desire for harmony had found expression in some very unhealthy dynamics.  If Doormat was an Olympic discipline, I would have been a strong contender for the gold medal.

I was an expert in

  • staying quiet to keep the peace;
  • putting other people’s needs first at the expense of my own well-being;
  • being flexible and accommodating and arranging myself around whatever circumstances presented themselves;
  • finding new ways to please everyone, hoping they would like me;
  • meeting others’ expectations to fit into their vision of life; and
  • picking myself up again after someone bulldozed over me.

My legal and conflict resolution training had equipped me with solid communication skills and the ability to handle tense situations, and I was great at using these skills for my clients’ benefit. But for some reason, I was unable to do the same thing for myself. I had no desire to be a bulldozer, and the only other option I saw was to be a doormat.

Fortunately, I found a way out of victimhood. I earned the rank of Shodan (first degree black belt) in Kenpo Karate and RYT 500 certification as a Yoga teacher. Taking baby steps, I gradually added what was missing from my life: unapologetically being me, and claiming my space.

I am now able to

  • speak up for myself in a way that is kind yet firm;
  • set boundaries that respect everyone, including me;
  • honor my own needs as much as those of others;
  • create more meaningful connection by living true to myself; and
  • get out of the way when someone is trying to bulldoze over me.

I created Black Belt Buddha to share the most effective strategies I have road-tested and successfully applied in my own life, and I feel so fortunate to help amazing, kind human beings bring out their inner badass.  Every time a client tells me they feel more confident, they stayed calm dealing with a combative family member, or they took their power back in a challenging relationship, I do a happy dance .

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